23 Problems Only Introverts Will Understand

23 Problems Only Introverts Will Understand

I love you, but no more talking.”

1. When you need to take breaks and recharge after socializing for too long. Why? Because, “I’m not antisocial, I swear! I just need to recharge my introvert juices!

2. When people mistake your thoughtful look for resting mean face. Why? Because, “I like to give thoughtful answers, but sometimes people assume I’m just silently judging them.

3. When your friend wants to invite more people over, and you don’t want to sound like a jerk by saying no. Why? Because, “I might even secretly like a little more company, even if it does give me anxiety.

4. When spending a heavenly weekend alone means that you’re missing out on time with friends.

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  • and the fear that by doing so, you’re slowly turning into a hermit…
  • who will likely die alone

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5. When having visitors stay with you is a nightmare, because it means you have to be on at ALL TIMES. Why? “Because it’s exhausting!!”

6. When people stop inviting you places because you keep canceling plans.

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7. When too many social obligations + no alone time = a total grump.

8. When you’re asked to do a group project, and know that you’re going to hate every minute of it.

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9. When your ride at a party doesn’t want to leave early and no one seems to understand your distress.Why? Because, “I need to go *right now*.”

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10. When you hear this question, and your palms start to sweat with anxiety. “Wanna Hang Out?”, because the answer is “no,” but you don’t want to hurt their feelings.

11. When you hear, “Are you OK?” or “Why are you so quiet?” for the umpteenth time. Why? Because “I prefer to listen and only speak up when there’s something important to say.”

12. That feeling of dread that washes over you when the phone rings and you’re not mentally prepared to chat. Why? Because, “I don’t want to talk to people!

13. When you have to deal with that one friend who ALWAYS wants to hang out, and you ALWAYS have to say this: “I kind of want to spend some time by myself

14. When you have an awesome night out, but have to deal with feeling exhausted for days after the fact.

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15. When people pressure you to be more social, whether you like it or not.

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16. When you’re really excited to go out, but those good feelings don’t last long enough.

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17. When you’re trying to get something done at work, but you can’t, because everyone else is talking.

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18. When you carry a book to a public place so no one will bug you, but other people take that as a conversation starter.

19. When people make you feel weird for wanting to do things by yourself.

20. When someone interrupts your thoughts, and you get irrationally angry.

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21. When people can’t seem to grasp that being in small groups is where you excel the most.

22. When you need to be completely alone so you can recharge and get back to being awesome.

23. Because even though introverts are misunderstood constantly, you know this to be true: “Sometimes I just need to not talk to anyone for a while,” and that’s ok.

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Grow food instead of grass!

So, we bought our first home! Aside from picking all the designs for the interior I was thinking about having a garden out back. Maybe a few herbs and tomatoes, and banana peppers…and, wait. I realized I was totally focusing on edible plants. So I googled ‘urban farming’ to find out the best designs and tips for growing food in the city. I wasn’t prepared for all the cool info I found.

Luke Keegan started with his own small front yard using several raised beds.

First, did you know that people are growing enough food in the yards on their city lots to feed themselves and share with friends? Did you know that your front lawn doesn’t have to be grass? That it could be a beautiful, edible, paradisaic garden?? Well, I didn’t know. So I’m endeavoring to find out. I’d like to grow more of my own food to eat, and then share, trade, or sell the rest. I’m interested in organic gardening and using permaculture to ensure sustainability. What is permaculture, you ask? Well, I asked the same thing. Here is what I found:

“Permaculture is a philosophy of working with, rather than against nature; of protracted & thoughtful observation rather than protracted & thoughtless labour; of looking at plants & animals in all their functions, rather than treating any area as a single-product system.” Bill Mollison (from the permaculture.net website)

This definition of permaculture expresses a basic concept in permaculture – examining and following nature’s patterns. Permaculture advocates designing your garden based on natural ecosystems. The term permaculture is a contraction of the words “permanent,” “agriculture,” and “culture.” Basically, you design your garden or homestead in the most natural, sustainable way possible.

Front Yard Lawn in Oakland, CA

Not knowing exactly what those sustainable design features were, I did some more digging. I found that several families were on the same path and in the same habitat (urban) as me. So…instead of reinventing the wheel I started reading about how they got started. I wanted to find out their ‘lessons learned’ and figure out how to maximize output and increase the resiliency of my front and backyard garden ideas. I’ve gone from just wanting a few tomatoes to searching for heirloom seeds, thinking about water features so I can have a few ducks (to eat the bugs and fertilize, and lay eggs!), and figuring out how to mimic the southeastern LA terrain on my compacted city dirt/grass lot. I’m also really liking the idea of an herb spiral and hugelkultur.

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Here is where I started:

Tyrant Farms a couple who started out by having dinner at a friends house where all the food served was grown by the friend. They were amazed at the variety and tastefulness of the spread.

Appalachian Feet – the master gardener “friend” who inspired the Tyrant Farms couple to strike out on their own gardening adventure. Every post in her blog is a green living “how to” that can be applied to your own life. The primary focus is local food and growing in the varied altitudes of the southeastern mountains and foothills. She has a great permaculture library and a quick start guide for city folk with lots of photos. Plus a post about how to “forage” in the city 🙂

Luke Keegan – starting small is a good idea. This guy started with 8 raised beds on his front lawn. They look fabulous!! If you can get past the vulgar word in his page title, the photos and tips don’t contain any others.

Derveas Family – have an urban homestead blog, a website, and videos. They live 15 minutes from downtown LA and grow over 6,000 pounds of veggies per year (enough to feed all 4 of them). They make 20K off the excess, which they sell to local restaurants.

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